The story below was shared with me informally via WhatsApp message by artist Cheryl Flowers, a friend from Hogsback, who took it upon herself to look after the venerable old tabby, Tigger, in his last years, including taking him from Hogsback to Makhanda with her, when she moved there. I thank her for allowing me to use it as the centrepiece for this article.
Throughout my time in Hogsback, Tigger was generally known as ‘The Edge’s cat’ – which he was! My late husband, Norman, had known him as a kitten and he was sure the dignified, independent creature was already around 30 by the time I moved to the mountain, because Norman had been there for that amount of time!
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| The star photo of Tigger that still hangs in a frame at The Edge. Photo: Simon Pamphilon |
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The relationship between people and pets is a subject all its own. What I find fascinating about it is that, as in any close relationship between humans, the unique individuality of each being finds totally specific resonance with the unique individuality of the other. I have never been your typical ‘animal or pet-crazy person’. Certainly I find it impossible to “love” all cats and dogs, as some people are apparently able to do. Many pets resemble their owners so closely that I often feel quite bored by their nondescript presences, so tame and unsurprising have they become. Far worse are those pets who act out all their owners’ aggression, arrogance or unruliness, often much to their owners’ delight. However, I have known highly unique, independent-minded and self-respecting furred beings, who know their own strengths and weaknesses and whose souls my heart simply carries on carrying – one of them being my son’s cat, with whom I could literally communicate via telepathy at a time when I was still quite sceptical about matters like that (it actually happened by accident, after which I paid a little more attention). These days I swear his gorgeous, humorous, lithe little spirit still sometimes approaches me now and then, eight years after he died. We – my son, his father, his father’s partner and myself – had all been in attention the day Charlie died. I kept a wake over his corpse that night and the following day we buried him in a little, simple and light ceremony, as befitted his spirit. I do believe that the presence of our love, and the rituals we spontaneously performed, sealed living bonds between him and ourselves.
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| Charlie in his 'shroud' - a childhood t-shirt from my son. So, when Cheryl shared the story of her trauma about having Tigger put down I asked her permission to publish it here. The story shares the conflict between her personal beliefs and what she submitted to on the advice of her perfectly well-meaning vet. I feel purposed to honour both Tigger and Cheryl by publishing her words – not because I want to push any particular belief or practice down my reader’s throat, or to suggest that any wrong was done. No, there is absolutely no accusation to be read into any of this post, please. My intention is simply to encourage you to examine your own feelings about the matter of euthanasia and to remember to take each moment for the gift it is. There are questions that do not admit of ‘principles’, questions that have their utterly unique answer, depending on all the complexities of a particular context – and one of those questions concerns how one dies, closely related to the question of how a being one loves dies. Very often, somebody else’s manner of dying is altogether beyond one’s own as well as their control. What happens, if that is the case? That is the question I would like to leave you with.
* * * “Tigger passed away on 26th January this year from old age (he was 24 and a half years when he died). The last four months of his life were hard for him, because he grew more frail by the day, with heart-breaking symptoms of kidney failure. Even though he was still happy, he walked very slowly and lost a lot of weight and wobbled when he walked. I allowed the natural process to take place as I didn’t want to end his life – I personally believe that is murder. We had a close bond and I kept him comfortable and warm and took him to the vet often for checks and drips, etc. Only when he started to die, then Nicola said to me: "It’s time now, Cheryl.” What still gives me daily nightmares, though, is the memory of the emotions in his very expressive eyes just before he died. I was holding him and he felt the gradual shutoff coming on too quickly for him to understand. I felt terrible when I witnessed, first confusion, then total terror and panic in his eyes. I could read Tigger emotionally very well, like no other person could, not even the vet, because our souls were connected. Tigger's eyes after the first injection (a large sedative dose) were panicky and my heart went out to him, but there was nothing I could do. He had been an emotionally independent little fellow. His awareness shut down before Nicola administered her second injection (this was the one to gradually and completely stop his heart). But with the first one, I felt totally helpless to comfort him. It was very hard for both of us straight after the first injection. Poor Tigger looked absolutely desperate to know what was happening to him. I could see that in his eyes. I was heartbroken to lose him and it broke my heart more to read that expression in his eyes. It took me three months to mourn him and I still miss him terribly. He was a very special cat, little Tigger.” – Cheryl Flowers, December 2024 |
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| "My last moments with Tigger just after his little heart stopped beating. This was when I said a prayer for Tigger to commend his spirit to God."– Cheryl Flowers The panic Cheryl describes is something I take seriously as a ‘not ideal’ situation in relation to inevitable death. Could it be that the imposition of a human will that is acting ‘routinely’ is a problem for Life? Possibly, if Cheryl had been given a day, or even only an hour, to talk to Tigger, to explain to him what was going to take place, the panic may not have been there? I have no doubt that the cat knew his end was near, as did Cheryl of course. She says the shutoff came “on too quickly”. Does that not signal that anything ‘routine’, even ‘routine mercy’, is something to approach with alert caution, even with fear? Because, like birth, nobody’s, nobody’s death is ever just routine. That is the thought I believe Cheryl and Tigger’s shared experience is destined to spread amongst readers everywhere. * * * – Silke Heiss, 15th December 2024 |
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| Me at The Edge with Tigger, 2019 |
